Sometimes your heart gets broken. You might think it’s chipped, or cracked when you’re first feeling the blunt force -the shock of the death of a relationship… But after you let it all gestate for awhile…after valiant attempts at impregnating your life with meaning and significance (using activities, projects, and people as vehicles)…after days, weeks, and a few...
On New Years Resolutions
I’ve realized that adopting a philosophy or a motto for the new year has made a resolution goal much easier to accomplish. Last year my resolution was to “do me.” Yup, it was that simple. But it was an umbrella term that encompassed so many things. Last year was all about doing whatever I wanted with whomever I wanted wherever I wanted. It wasn’t as indulgent as it sounds,...
I have nothing original or fantastical to say about love, as Gabriel Garcia...– Love in the Time of Cholera
All men fear death. It’s a natural fear that consumes us all. We fear death...– Woody Allen Referenced by Ernest Hemingway in Midnight in Paris
I don’t believe in anything happening at first sight. or first touch. or first conversation. Then tonight happened.
My advice on life
whatshouldwecallme: A few years ago: Now:
dear stranger, there is something to be said about spontaneously hanging out with a girl at a diner at 3 am…watching her as she eats a pancake sandwich [how attractive]…maintaining composure as the shady man in the next booth gropes his escort…and getting to know someone you just met that night. there’s just something to be said about that.
1. i’ve just realized that i’m longer in a position where it’s appropriate to date people my own age. (24 year olds are still boys) 2. everyone has someone on their hook. 3. if there’s a reacher, there’s a settler. 4. there’s something about not laying your cards on the table that is…seductive.
“Men get to feel hornier because they’re socially supported in this. The whole of society is geared toward titillating men and discouraging female sexual desire. It’s inherent to the Nice Guy® complaint, where men are entitled to feel physical attraction, but a woman who wants more than “nice” is shallow.” Amanda Marcotte, Misogyny isn’t caused by male horniness, on David Wong’s...
late night conversations
“do you like living out here on your own?” he asked. “of course! i get to be self-serving in a capacity that has never been known to me…whether it’s while buying groceries at the supermarket or deciding what to watch and what to drink and when to take a shower or walk around naked.” “hmm….” he sighed.
every now and then there’s a rare gem of a day where i get home, crawl into bed and watch television and fall asleep by myself…with an overweight cat lingering by my feet. these are wonderful days. since november i’ve been going out every weekend, and surrounding myself with company during the weeknights. all in order to avoid solitude. but solitude happens sometimes....
I’ve lost touch with about 85% of the people I used to see/talk to on a regular basis last year. And that is okay. It is weird how transitional periods in your life make you feel. Sometimes I feel alone. Sometimes I am nervous. Sometimes I feel as though I am too concerned with pleasure. Often times I am exhausted from work, and life. I look forward to looking back on this transitional...
It is natural to be scared of living on your own, if you’ve never done it before. I am facing a very long night ahead of me right now, full of packing, and attempting to clean an apartment that I will be moving out of at 8 am tomorrow morning. I have no doubt whatsoever that moving out of this apartment that I’ve shared for over a year and a half with my ex-boyfriend is going to be...
Impulsive trip to San Francisco next weekend? Sure, why not. Growing up just got a whole lot cooler.
Until I was 30, I dated only boys. I’ll tell you why: Men scared the sh*t out of...– Mindy Kaling
No woman wakes up saying, “God, I hope I don’t get swept off my feet...– Hitch
I used to think being successful in something was all about the amount of time and effort that you dedicate. But what I’m realizing is that you can put in all the time in the world into something [and by that I mean you leave your house at 5:30 in the morning, be home by 7 pm, work 70 something odd numbers a week]… . but that does not guarantee that your hard work will pay off,...
Teaching is not a profession for everyone. Teaching in an urban school with the demographic that your school has is not going to come easy. But you knew that. Everything you’ve done over the past two years has led up to this moment: being a teacher of record in a school with high expectations. Closing the achievement gap cannot happen without commitment and perseverance, and getting...
Remember to be kind to yourself.
Can Men and Women Be Friends?
#2 Men Benefit More from Cross-Sex Friendship There are proven—and apparent—distinct differences between female friendship and male friendship. Women spend the majority of their time together discussing their thoughts and feelings, while men tend to be far more group-oriented. Males gather to play sports or travel or talk stock quotes; rarely do they share feelings or personal reflections. This...
on breaking bad news to little children
I remember thinking the first day of school last year, Wow. I’ve just given birth to 28 seven-year old children. That’s what teaching feels like. And like a doting mother, I am more than delighted to share the stories of my kids, to the amusement and or apathy of friends. This blog might become a variation of Kids Say the Darndest Things. Except this is better because they are MY...
– “This is Sammy Davis Jr. Jr… She is Grandfather’s Seeing Eye bitch. Father purchased her for him not because he believes Grandfather is blind, but because a Seeing Eye bitch is also a good thing for people who pine for the opposite of loneliness. In truth, Father did not purchase...
“Some days you must learn a great deal. But you should also have days when...